Friend in need
People say that friend in need friend indeed. On the one hand there is a point in this expression and it is right to say so. Though, on the other hand there is something wrong with this phrase. What people mean when they say "friend in need"? Does it mean that the one have to forget about a person who refused to help him or her?
So, is one allowed to consider him- or herself as a good friend in case he or she recognizes friends in such way? The idea of this phrase is that a real friend will never let you alone with your problems. There are a lot of people who are friendly to you and who seem to be happy when they see you, though a few of them will stay when you will need their help.
But, indeed, there is no point in judging people according to criteria "friend in need". It is wrong to get offended with the one who refused to help you. Think over, may be you were too selfish and have always used one for your own purposes. It is wrong to call one a friend only because he or she can be of great help for you.
First of all, to be a good friend means to be a good friend and never ask people about pay-back. In case you do something in order to help your friend or to make him or her feel better there is no way for you to tell your friend that he or she owns you now.